Is age really nothing but a number?
I remember my moms saying you don’t know what you want at a certain age. I knew what I wanted in life and love at a young age. Recently, I was in talks with someone for 3 months and was let down due to the fact that they were trying to pursue others. I was more angry then hurt. Hurt because I was at that point where I was begining to catch feelings; upset because my feelings were used in a negative way and I was led on to believe that this was going somewhere. After venting to a friend, he then asked me the age of the person I was in talks with and I did realize an age gap. They were 20 and I am 23, going on 24. My friend then went on to say, “they’re new to this lifestyle and at that age, they’re going to want to try any and everything. But that doesn’t make them right for what was done.” I brushed it off. My other best friend said something similuar to that affect, adding on that he no longer liked the person due to the disclosure of my feelings. But he then went on to say that he was somewhat that way at that age too. No one to show him what certain things were about, no way of knowing what he wanted. I took in his and my other friend’s consideration, but at the same time, I wasn’t that way when I was 20 years old. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I wanted to go and get married and have children, hell I still don’t want that yet at age 23, but If I was in talks or dating someone, I was commited, faithful, and letting others know, if aproached, that I was involved.
I had a recent conversation with the last friend who is going through mixed emotions with someone he’s dating that he was in talks with in the past. One thing kept coming about when he was speaking; He kept saying “…but we were young back then.” And I just kept wondering to myself, “What does age have to do with anything?!” I know at as you grow older, you realize certain mistakes, and won’t do certain things anymore. But does that realy play a major factor in love? From a personal stand point, I was always a “relationship oriented” kind of guy. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my share of “fun”, and still do, we all do when we’re single. Now with the whole age thing, It’s kind of making me think. I have someone interested in my who is 20 years of age, the same age of the last person who played with my feelings. It’s kind of hard to take them seriously due to the conversations I’ve had and the experience I had with someone that same age. You still have people my age and older who still play people for a fool. I am now often wondering is age really nothing but a number? Or does age matter when It comes to love?
